Eliminate bullying, using this simple method.

Eliminate bullying, using this simple method.

Any time a bully verbally attacks you, agree with them, even if what they’re saying isn’t true. Bullies are mean. They say and do things that aren’t nice and certainly aren’t true. Bullies are unkind, insensitive and cruel. We, however, are all beautiful people, made in the image of God. (Genesis 1:27; So God created man in His own image…) We deserve to feel safe whether at home, or at school. 

Here’s a simple method to use, when someone says something that causes you to feel inferior, less than, unwanted, or unloved…

Let’s say, for example, someone tells you your hair is awful. It doesn’t matter whether it’s true or not. Just agree with the person and reply; “I know it is. It always looks so messy.” Say it even if you don’t agree. It throws the bully off track, disarming him/her. Then turn the tables and make them feel good. You could say; “You’ve got beautiful hair. I wish I had hair like yours.” Bullies don’t know what to do with this. They don’t know where to go when you agree with them.

A bully might then counter attack with another negative. Bullies often come back a second or third time, but seldom a forth. So, if the bully starts on another area and says something like, “I hate what you’re wearing.” You could reply with, “I know. I’ve got terrible dress sense. You always wear lovely clothing. I wish I had your sense of style.”

It might be your body shape they pick on: too fat, too thin, too tall, to short. Your face is ugly, you have pimples, big feet, a big nose. Whatever it is, just agree with them, turn the tables and they’ll soon run out of things to say and leave you alone. 

If you react, or become upset, this fuels the bully to add more flames to the fire. Be pleasant, agree with the bully and turn the tables. 

Your agreeing with the bully is only for counter attack. Don’t ever let someone cause you to believe in the horrible, negative things a bully says. In the bible, Psalms 139:14 states; “I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” 

No matter who you are, no matter what people say, God’s word is truth. You are created in God’s own image and are fearfully and wonderfully made! And don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. 

*Bible quotes from Holy Bible NKJV

Alexandra Grose - A photojournalist and author for over twenty years. Writing is her passion and her dream and helping others achieve their dreams, through her written work, is Alexandra's greatest aspiration. 

 

#Integrity; truthfulness, honesty and reliability, in all things.

I believe one should....be truthful in everything you say and do. Keep all relationships open and honest. Be reliable, punctual and organised and if you say you'll do it - do it. 

If you want to soar like an eagle, make an effort, not an excuse. 

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What is Christmas?

 

What is Christmas?

Christmas is a statement of the God who gives richly. It’s a celebration of feasting and giving and joy. The Christmas tree is a symbol of everlasting life, after Jesus’ death on the cross of the timber of a tree; a symbol of forgiveness and hope eternal. 

The decorations of the tree reflect splendour, kindness and beauty, and the lights of the tree represent His light, as we celebrate the One who is ‘the light of the world.’ 

The Christmas feast; a time to eat and drink, to celebrate before the Lord. There’s a wonder and fullness to the celebration of Christmas. Laughter comes, as does love, giving and receiving, but to some also comes a sadness, as lost loved ones are remembered by their absence: an empty seat under the table. 

Reach out to those in need at Christmas. Remember the Lord and all He has done for you. If you’re lucky enough to be blessed at this time, cast your thoughts to those who find this time of year difficult. Include others in this wonderful time of celebration: those who aren’t feeling so blessed, those who can’t afford the finer things of life, those who are lonely, broken and broken hearted. 

The above photo is of our beautiful man, Kai, who isn’t with us this Christmas. He is not forgotten. Our loved ones are never forgotten, whether two legged, or four. Take time for reflection, during this celebration season. It’s important to remember those we love. It’s important to remember the sacrifice Jesus made, so we can celebrate Christmas with joy and thanksgiving.  

Share this wonderful celebration and show the world – God is a good, good Father.  

When Fear Grips.

 

                      When fear grips.

How do we get through those tough times, when fear takes a hold, when anxiety awakens us in the middle of many a sleepless night? When the fear is so real, you can taste it? When fear grips at your heart, until you think you can’t endure? How do you handle it?

Apart from the fear of the Lord and fear of sin, all fears are from Satan. Satan sends fear to confuse and weaken us, to cause anxiety so deep, we think we will collapse under it. 

The acronym for fear is; False Evidence Appearing Real. And fear does feel very real. Satan doesn’t have a lot of tools in his armoury and tends to use the same ones, over and over. He loves to bring you into fear, to cause you to turn back, rather than courageously march forward.

The Israelites of the bible said to Moses, as he was leading them to the promised land; …have you taken us away to die in the wilderness? (Exodus 14:11) 

…for it would have been better for us to serve the Egyptians than that we should die in the wilderness. (Ex 14:12) 

Fear had taken hold. The Israelites had forgotten how dreadful their life was, before they left Egypt. They wanted to turn back, rather than march forward.

Sometimes God brings terror to the land and the people, as in Ezekiel 32:32 For I have caused my terror in the land of the living. Some fears are from God and we need to know the difference between what God brings upon the people and what the devil brings. 

The key to having victory over fear is to hand all your cares to God. Instead of allowing your fears to take root and grow, paralyzing your attempts at life, identify and confront those fears. Prayerfully go to God with the confidence that He will handle the situation for you.  

1 Peter 5:7 states; casting all your cares upon Him, for He cares about you.

Trust God. Reject all fear, as soon as it arises. …be vigilant: because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. (1 Peter 5:8) 

These are not just words on a page, but words from the living God, written in all truth, written to guide and protect you from the ways of the evil one. The Lord gave us His word on fear in Psalm 91: He is my refuge and my fortress…He will deliver you from the snare of the fowler (the evil one)...with long life I will satisfy you.

If we faithfully follow God and His word, we shall overcome our fears and march forward into our destiny, our place of victory. Fear isn’t the last word, God is.

*Biblical quotes: Holy Bible NKJV.

Alexandra Grose - A photojournalist and author for over twenty years. Writing is her passion and her dream and helping others achieve their dreams, through her written work, is Alexandra's greatest aspiration. 

 

#Integrity; truthfulness, honesty and reliability, in all things.

I believe one should....be truthful in everything you say and do. Keep all relationships open and honest. Be reliable, punctual and organised and if you say you'll do it - do it. 

If you want to soar like an eagle, make an effort, not an excuse. 

alexandragrose@amazon.com